IS IT OK IF IT IS NOT OK AT ALL?
Many a time I
thought about it but barring few vogue ideas seldom any meaningful thing popped
up in my barren mind. However, I stumble upon the title when everything turned
around. Imagine that the pay master expresses his inability to pay you as
business is doomed. However, he also agrees to remain your services intact and
assures you to resume once everything normalized. Your work from home option
serves no purpose as it is more like spending time with your family and fails
to acknowledge the effort you put in. You move ahead accepting it’s a part of
life. Start giving time to what you are good at but then realize that life is
full of thankless people and jobs that hardly acknowledge your effort,
dedication, devotion and hard effort. Freelancing turns free and mere time pass
activity as the people you worked for refuse to pay you. They stop taking calls
and even replying your messages. The irritation grew up gradually, you want to
punch on their face but unable to do so. The incompetent people prick holes in
your work and suggest you what to do and what not. Somehow you manage to
establish a balance amid atrocities and life. “Will let you know” and “will
give you a call” haunts your future prospect. But you keep on working on what
drives you. Meanwhile, while working on a project encounter a mishap. You asked
for some water when your little kid drops the water filled bottle on your
laptop. Now your rage has no limit yet you love your kid and somehow manage to
extinguish your anger and frustration. On the top of it your only tech friend
and gadget your phone breath his last dwindling all your hopes, future
assignments and meetings. Now you have no idea as what is happening with you.
Probably there might be some astronomical changes has took over all your
happiness and possibilities. You go to the asylum of deity believing what your
spiritual guru would have said to you. God Saturn has an evil eye on you or
probably some one would have suggested you that it is all because of the deeds
(Karma) you did in your early birth. Then believe me my friend you are doomed.
The situation
is out of your control and probably you might not be responsible for that. But
all your ambition, efforts and prospects start turning dark. Can you still
think to move on? Perhaps you have given up all your expectation and hope.
Nevertheless, you seldom have any choice except keep moving.
At time I
believe that perhaps I have destined the way things are designed to change
drastically all of sudden. Perhaps this is what I never prepared for and
perhaps none of us ever expected this way. As wise men say permanent problems
may not have a temporary solution similarly we are at the stage where we are
seeking temporary solutions to temporary problems. There have been three types
of people in our life, one who compassionate with us but mock at our adversity
and effort behind our back. I named them pseudo well-wisher. Then comes those
who support you but seldom helps you because of their own believe system. They
are disguised well-wisher. And then comes the last one who will neither support
you nor wish you success. Moreover, they are megalomaniac. They are
self-obsessed. They will never let you outshine. They can be your neighbors,
friends or relative. It would be so absurd to even define or name it.
More or less
they all are toxic and if not at least there is hardly any good to keep them.
However, the social strata do not permit it and creates a bad image in society
if we keep a bay with them. I often wonder if Karma is the final decision, when
and where they are going to pay for their deed. And if the almighty would have
to punish us for the wrong deeds or karma we did in our early life, there would
have better ways to award such punishment except having a toxic well wisher or
relative. Had God made any mistake? Is he also not aware of the fact that
temporary problems may have a permanent solution? Cutting-off social circle or
alienating oneself can be a better solution after all.
No wonder
someday things might change the parade of so called well-wisher drool around
you praising your endeavor and decision but will that not be a superficial
thing? Can you count on the blessing you actually received? Perhaps not because
many a time we believe that people are good. They greet us, wish us and they
are concerned about our well-being which is actually not true. And perhaps this
is the reason why good wishes do not bring good fortune.
In fact at
time, it is ok if it is not ok at all because those who truly believes you, supports
you and encourages you will be there whether it rain or shine. The adversity
will unveil their true identity but it is also important to have some one whom
you can count upon, you can share your feelings without any prejudice and enjoy
their company. All your worries and tension vanish when you meet and talk to
them. A small story well explains this.
One day a
person’s house catches fire and everything burnt down. His friend came to
enquire it. He asked his friend as what left safe from the fire and how much
damage does it cause. The person replied only I survived. The friend then said,
“If you are safe then there is no loss at all.”
Writer:-
Devsheel Gaurav
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