If love happens just once…………

What is first, second or third; love is just love. Does it make any sense as how many times you fell in love? I never carried the hatred and jealousy with lost one and every time I encountered with someone new I tried to improve myself. The one who stopped committing mistake learned nothing new. Every time I had something new to share with. Was commitment everything I was craving for? Perhaps no, love is free with no limitations and boundaries and I never drawn any either. An un-communicated yet understood threshold was always there. The tag line was beyond the apprehension from single, committed or taken but UNTILL YOU LOVE ME. Should I be worried if someday my love will be gone? No, certainly not set they free or you will suffocate them. Remember how people keep beautiful birds in cage to tame them and no longer have they lost its sheen. You cannot make someone yours when you cage them, you simply own them or possess them. Vandalizing love for the sake of owning it, does it make any sense? My love is unconditional and most importantly it’s free. You will never find it in your worldly thesaurus. Because you can only sense it and it’s away from radical minds. So what if you never come across a false one or failed to attain true love.

On the perch of my office the view is not so scenic but I love watching passerby. Every passerby has a story or perhaps I am looking for one. Couples holding hand of each other, offering foods (at time feeding each other with own hands), hugging and sharing mischievous smile. Glee, deserted, dumped and various other categories. Love at first sight, one more metaphor to explain love. What if I didn’t hick up for the very first sight? You cannot judge people at very first look and so do with love and marriage. What if you are trapped into a wrong relationship? What especially I like to view outside is much more than mere gazing gorgeous girls and feeling envious of romantic couple, it’s just like perseverance of finding a story. 

Another questions pop up in my mind; LOVE MARRIAGE. And I stumbled upon when one of my friends enquired about my marital status. He asked whether my marriage is Love or arranged one. I replied on a flirty note, “Love happens just once rest all is marriage.” This is true on certain extent. Go beyond and you will find so many myths prevail as disguised love, infatuation, extramarital, homosexuality, and committed, complicated and open relationship. What distinguishes them is gratification. And perhaps we all are looking for that. For someone it might be the case of instant gratification but for someone it works as fodder to their creativity and learning. I just stumbled upon to share an interesting case of social life of tigers. They fight for their survival and to lead the heard, the winner gets the tigress and raises family. Once the cubs are matured they kicked them out to pursue their own life. What will you name it greed or gratification or anything else but that is how they live their life? I am sure that you must have heard the story of ugly duckling, that hailed in the family of sparrow and forbidden her real identity until one day she came across his real siblings. The reason might be absurd but not the logic. He is a victim of love at first sight and disguised sparrow as his real mother. I am not a biologist neither I suppose to bring forth any abstruse logic but simple autopsy of love. My reason is simple; I am trying to throw some light on defining the love.

Years back it just happened when while reading some article on mammals, I was surprised to know that dolphins are wisest animal on planet. Their social behavior is much more similar to humans. Even they communicate from each other on a very strange technique. They are more amiable and they have some common sentiments as humans. They do cry, but the best part is their communication. Scientist and biologist are surprised that how good and strong their communication network is? Where as we as a human lacked? So finally I succeeded to break one more myth. People say that love dies if communication is paralyzed. But that is not true. Years of solitude and aloofness doesn’t mean that we are not amiable or socially challenged. Rather what keeps you associated with each other, greed, passion, sex or anything? Now that is what exactly defines the kind of lover you are. In recent researches of London, scientist examined various behavior aspect of human and the kind of lover they are. The way you kiss or smooch your partner is also a criterion to define the kind of lover you are.

I might fumble upon the wrong interpretation of it but the bottom line remains the same. Forbid behavioral theories, forbid rationalism and also forbid the testament that says we live only once, die once and love ones. From the ogling eyes if someone is expecting something that’s also love. I would never like to repent what I did and I guess no one should. Think of a moment you would come across your lost love. Would you stop and embrace it or move on. Life is simple and don’t make it radical. One day you will be reciting your story of your valor or remain coward for good.   

My wife is staunch supporter of love but not me. The reason is simple I never confined myself in any social threshold. Does love really means marriage or commitment? Can’t two people remain friends forever? No I am not talking Greek or Latin. I am a human and I can see the future. From deteriorating relationship, feticides, crimes and murders all are the proof of scoffing laid back testaments that we are bound to follow.